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One of the hardest parts of my life, was coming to grips with my mother’s addiction. For even the strongest individuals, dealing with the feelings of abandonment and the anger of betrayal can be a life long journey. It took me years to process my feelings and learn the facts of what is going. The fact that this is not only an mental but physical addiction. This doesnt take the responsibility or power to overcome out of the addict grasp, but knowing the fact about addiction allow me to have compassion enough to subdue my anger and try to be supportive. Through compassion and understanding , I learned to grow and heal from my experience. I learn that I didnt have to be embarrassed for being a child of an addict. It was not my fault and it had nothing to do with whether my mother loved me. She did. Going into my 30’s, I appreciate where I have been and what I have gone through. I am an adult and I have control of my life now. I have forgiven my mother and released her from any debt I felt I was owed. Now I can focus on my goal and become the person that is solely defining by my future. That is the power of forgiveness. Here is A video of me sharing my experience
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Diamond Stylz 
Hey Diamond,
My Father just recently passed away due to self medicating with Crack, I wished I had seen your video on you tube prior to his passing, to be able to accept and make the best out of a bad situation instead of trying to battle him trying to save him, judging him. The way you describe it becoming a physical need ie. Being hungry has helped me to understand his rational a little more. Your real talk about no one owes you nothing was hard to swallow as I feel robbed but I guess the truth hurts.
God bless your Mother, she has tremendous strength to be able to abstain. By the looks of it the apple don’t fall far from the tree as you appear to be a strong cookie yourself.
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Thank you love and yes some pills are hard to swallow…they go down slow too but the still go down…..we have to remember we have not Vote in someone elses lives and happiness…regardless of how much we think we should…just be there with unconditional love but conditional support…meaning that you will love them forever but your support come with conditions..thank you for the positive feedback
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Thank you Ms. Diamond. I listeened to this really hard, and decided to start talking to my dad again. Your words are deep. That’s why I keep showing up here. 🙂
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thank you for reading
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Enchanting. I too am the child of an addict and the mother of a survivor. Im glad my son decided to forgive me. Im glad that he rode my addiction out with me refusing to leave my side even when relatives wanted to take over. We been thru some shyt.
I look at it this way. There is no instruction manual on how to be a parent, and many of us are distracted by life and make wrong decisons. no one can beat us up any worse then we can when the smoke finally clears and we get ourselves together.
I learn all these lessons when I made the very mistakes I faulted my mother for…
Your mother owes you nothing. She owes herself another chance at life. Once she gets that, yours will come too.
♥
dGb!
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thank you for the feedback you definitely right….
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