Discussions about toxic masculinity often trigger defensiveness, with some believing that calling it out equates to attacking masculinity itself. Recently, actor Anthony Mackie claimed on the Pivot podcast that society is contributing to the “death of the American male.” This kind of reaction misses the point. The goal isn’t to erase masculinity—it’s to free men from the rigid, harmful expectations of patriarchy that limit their emotional and personal growth.

Toxic masculinity isn’t about being a man; it’s about the destructive behaviors and norms that tell men they must suppress vulnerability, reject emotional intelligence, and assert dominance to be “real men.” It forces men into a narrow definition of masculinity that often leads to emotional repression, unhealthy relationships, and even violence. By challenging these outdated expectations, we’re not trying to kill masculinity—we’re making space for men to be fully human.

A world without toxic masculinity allows men to express a full range of emotions, seek help when they need it, and build relationships based on mutual respect rather than control. It means redefining strength—not as aggression or stoicism, but as the courage to be authentic, compassionate, and self-aware. This isn’t weakness; it’s liberation.
The legacy of slavery and racial discrimination has profoundly impacted the construction of Black masculinity, leading to stereotypes and societal expectations that Black men must overcome. 

If we truly care about men’s well-being, we must acknowledge that patriarchy doesn’t just harm women—it cages men, too. The fight against toxic masculinity isn’t about destroying masculinity; it’s about expanding it, making room for men to live fully, freely, and without fear of judgment. Let’s retire the idea that masculinity is under attack and recognize that, in truth, it’s finally being given the space to evolve.