Embrace It

Transgender indivduals sometime are too busy trying to convince others of their gender so they put too much weight in how others perceive their gender and not how they perceive their gender. Of course, you have to consider how people perceive you on some level because in this world that perception can affect the quality of life. The problem come when you, as a trans individual, cares too much and it starts to triggers YOU effecting the quality of your own life not the others. Incidents like going into a downward spiral because someone used the wrong pronoun at the ice cream shop or getting an attitude with your spouse for the rest of your day cause someone clocked that you are a little wider in the hips than other men. In actuality, regular people just are their gender unapologetically flaws and all. Dont we claim to be just like regular people? Then start acting like it. I know some manly looking biological females who identify as women. When people mistake them for men. They dont make it a trigger for a depression episode. They say “No sweetie, Im a woman”…and move on with their life. On  personal note, I use to get so insecure when someone would say “ooo you’re tall for a woman” because Im almost 5’11…. UNTIL…I saw a bio woman who was taller than me get the same statement at Burger King. She smile and said “Yea I am. Can I get no onions and extra mayo on that burger?” That one few seconds change my whole perspective of how I interacted with the world… YEA I AM …NOW MOVING ON. Certain things we have the power to change but some things we just dont. Why added more stress to your life about thing you cant change anyway. Remember the serenity prayer? Just be who you are in the moment now , as a work-in-progress like the rest of the regular people. Just BE who you said you are. Sop trying to convince people  or yourself