I think people, particularly in the minority communities, are too individualistic in this era…women are focus on being independent feeling they dont need a man… This maybe true financial but there is something that happens when you put a masculine and femminine together in a team setting and its called balance. Men are forgetting where they should be in the family unit.It seem that having a family is not on many men life goals. Let take African Americans, as whole I think we are starting to believe the stigmas that are place on us so we dont trust each other…. so we dont support black business or each other because we are brainwashed in to thinking that if something is “Black” it is of less quality or integrity. Therefore they go and invest with the other races because they thinks the black folks not gonna do business right. You cane see it in the LGBT community as well. How many time have you heard someone say “Oh see that why I dont mess with the “kids”(means other LGBT members) they alway got some mess going on” Have you heard a transwoman say “Oh I dont hang around other transsexuals because its alway end up bad” I feel sometimes people say this in jest not realizing they are internalizing and passing on these negative feelings about their own demographic. Individualism is great for achieving success because you focus on you and your goalw. This does work well in that aspect but not for the community the individual is apart of. I think this is the reason why our minority cultures are moving into an individualistic state of mind and consequently less minority leaders have emerged. Yes we have some leaders and some people trying to uplift the group but not enough. The simple way to change this is to live our lives with integrity and support each other. I really think it is as simple that.
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- “Transgender and Transsexual Veterans of America – Part 2” (pinkbananaworld.com)
I must admit, I am guilty of this. I am not the first person to befriend other black women. I love women and try to encourage women and yet I struggle with this issue that is such a contradiction to everything I stand for. It’s actually embarrassing to admit but its true. I believe that what actually happens is, we project our personal insecurities onto those who look like us. The problem is not actually what you think of those who are like you, it’s actually what you think of yourself. Thats where the issue stems from. It also maybe that we’re harder on ourselves meaning we’re also harder on those who remind us of ourselves.
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